Beliefs control your life. Beliefs create and beliefs destroy. Most of our unconscious of the deepest beliefs that control us. The most important belief is identity.

People have different beliefs about life:

“Life is a gift.”

“Life is a dance.”

“Life is a test.”

“Life is sacred.”

“Life is hard.”

These beliefs will determine how we experience life and will create completely different realities.

We don’t experience “life” – we experience the life we focus on and our habits, our focus – our focus – are controlled by our beliefs. There’s one belief that’s more powerful than all the rest, and that’s our identity because once you define yourself, the human psyche will do whatever it needs to do to remain consistent with that identity. So, all lasting change requires a change in identity. Identity is the most powerful force that controls every thought, feeling and emotion in our life.

How we know who we are is knowing who we are and who we’re not.

There is a metaphor about life being at 68 degrees. That’s the comfort zone. What happens if the temperature goes down to 64, 62, 60 degrees? That change will cause pain and discomfort until you do something to get it back up to 68 degrees. The same is true on the other side of the spectrum – if you start experiencing wild success, happiness, joy and life goes up to 72. 74, 80 degrees, its uncomfortable and you’ll sabotage until you get back to 68 degrees. So, you must expand your identity to create lasting change.

The question needs to be “who do I need to be – what identity do I need to have – to experience (be, do, have) what I want?” And be prepared to stretch. If you find yourself thinking “I can’t” then you MUST.

Reflective Questions:

1. Whats the story of your life so far?
2. What’s the story of your limitation? What role have you played in your story in your limitation? What emotions came out during that story?
3. What’s the new story? Get in a peak, resourceful state to answer this question.
4. What role do you play in this new story? What role do you want to play?
5. Who will you serve? Who will you collaborate with? How will you co-create? What emotions will you have in this new story?